Are You One of Those Who Feels Jealous? If Yes, This Is for You.

 Hey! How are you guys?

I know, I’ve been missing for a long time. But believe me, life has been a rollercoaster lately. I’ve been busy—too busy—with my stuff, journeys, and everything else that life throws at you. But something happened last night, and I couldn’t keep it to myself. I felt this need to share it with all of you. Because who knows? Maybe someone out there is dealing with the same thing.

So today, I want to talk about jealousy.

Jealousy is like fire. It starts as a small spark—almost unnoticeable. But if you let it linger, it grows. Slowly, silently, it consumes you. By the time you realize what’s happening, it’s too late. You’re burned out, emotionally drained, and left wondering how you got there.

Trust me when I say this: jealousy is one of the most destructive emotions you can feel. And the worst part? It doesn’t just harm the person feeling it. It also affects the people around them—friends, family, lovers—anyone in close proximity to the flames of envy.

My Experience with Jealousy

I’ve been a victim of jealousy, but I’ve also been guilty of it. There were times in the past when I felt jealousy creeping in, clouding my thoughts, and making me act in ways I’m not proud of.

But here’s the thing: I let it go. I worked hard to shed that part of myself. Why? Because I came to realize how cruel jealousy is—not just to others, but to myself. It made me bitter, insecure, and unable to see the beauty in my own life. And I decided I didn’t want to live like that anymore.

Last night, something happened that reminded me of why I made that decision.

There’s this person in my life—a friend, or maybe just someone I know. She mentioned wanting to achieve a sharper jawline. “I’m going to work on it,” she said. I told her, “Hey! Why do you want to copy others? Just be yourself! I love your double chin—I mean, of course, that’s good! Why change yourself just for people or peer pressure? Embrace who you are. We’re all beautiful in our own unique form, and we don’t need to change ourselves to please others.” It’s so important to remind people that their worth isn’t defined by societal standards or trends. True beauty lies in self-acceptance and confidence.

I added, “You know, I have a little bit of a jawline too.”

Her response caught me off guard. She said, “I’ll have a better jawline than yours in a month.”

That stopped me in my tracks. I thought, What does this even mean? Was this a harmless comment, or was it something deeper? To me, it felt like a sign of jealousy.

The Toxicity of Jealousy

Let me say this loud and clear: Jealousy is toxic. It doesn’t matter who it comes from—your friends, your family, your partner. If someone in your life is constantly jealous of your achievements, your happiness, or even your physical appearance, it’s time to reevaluate that relationship.

Here’s why: jealousy doesn’t just hurt the person who feels it. It creates tension, resentment, and negativity in the relationship. It’s like a shadow that follows you around, darkening every interaction.

And if you’re the one feeling jealous, let me tell you this: it’s not your fault. Jealousy is a natural emotion. We’ve all felt it at some point in our lives. But what matters is how you deal with it.

What Jealousy Feels Like

Jealousy, to me, feels like an ugly seed that plants itself in your soul. It starts small, but if you nurture it—even unintentionally—it begins to grow. Its roots spread into your thoughts, emotions, and even your relationships, eventually choking out the joy and peace in your life.

Let me be honest with you: at some point in my life, I was jealous too.

I can vividly recall the days back in school when I would look at others and think, Why is she achieving more? or Why is he getting the recognition I deserve? I didn’t understand it at the time, but those feelings of jealousy were eating away at me.

And then, something shifted.

I started noticing people who were jealous of me. The way they acted, the energy they exuded—it was draining, to say the least. It made me realize something profound: jealousy is not just harmful to the person feeling it, but it also creates a ripple effect of negativity that affects everyone around them.

The Ripple Effect of Jealousy

Let’s break this down. Imagine someone feeling jealous of you. That jealousy produces an aura of negativity, whether it’s through their words, actions, or even just their energy. And here’s the kicker—it doesn’t stop there.

The person who’s on the receiving end of that jealousy often feels it too. They might not understand it, but they start secreting stress hormones—yes, this is real! Jealousy has a way of seeping into the environment, creating tension, insecurity, and discomfort.

Even the person harboring jealousy isn’t spared. Their body reacts by secreting stress hormones like cortisol. Their thoughts become clouded, their relationships strained, and their peace shattered.

It’s a vicious cycle.

So, here’s the truth: jealousy doesn’t just harm one person. It’s like a toxin that spreads, affecting multiple people in ways we often don’t even realize.

My Journey to Letting Go of Jealousy

It’s been about six or seven years since I made a conscious decision to stop letting jealousy control me. It wasn’t easy—it’s never easy to uproot something that feels so ingrained in you. But I worked on it, little by little, and the results have been life-changing.

I realized that jealousy pretends to be your friend. It whispers to you, saying, You’re just being competitive. You deserve better. You’re just motivating yourself. But that’s a lie. Jealousy is not your friend. It’s worse than anger, worse than frustration, worse than any fleeting emotion. Why? Because it lingers. It plants itself deep within you, growing stronger the more you feed it.

Over the years, I’ve seen thousands of relationships broken because of jealousy. Friendships, marriages, family bonds—all torn apart because someone allowed jealousy to creep in. I’ve seen people’s careers, mental health, and personal growth suffer because they couldn’t let go of it.

And I’ve felt the drain myself. I know how exhausting it is to be around someone who’s jealous of you. I also know how terrible it feels to be the one who’s jealous. Both sides of this equation are toxic.

Why You Should Let Go of Jealousy

Letting go of jealousy isn’t just about protecting others—it’s about protecting yourself. Jealousy depletes your aura. It drains your energy, your happiness, and your peace of mind. And it’s not worth it.

Here’s what I’ve learned:

• Jealousy doesn’t bring you closer to your goals. It pushes you further away.
• Jealousy doesn’t make you stronger. It makes you weaker.
• Jealousy doesn’t build connections. It breaks them.

If you truly want to grow, succeed, and find happiness, you need to let jealousy go.

How to Let Go of Jealousy

If you’re someone who’s struggling with jealousy, here are some steps to help you let it go:

1. Acknowledge It

The first step to overcoming jealousy is recognizing it. Be honest with yourself. Ask, Why am I feeling this way? Is it because you feel inadequate? Because you’re comparing yourself to someone else? Identifying the root cause is crucial.

2. Focus on Gratitude

Jealousy often stems from a lack of gratitude. When you’re too busy focusing on what others have, you forget to appreciate what you have. Start a gratitude journal. Write down three things you’re grateful for every day. It might seem simple, but over time, it will shift your mindset.

3. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Comparison is the thief of joy. Remember, everyone’s journey is different. Just because someone else has something you want doesn’t mean you’re less worthy. Focus on your own path and celebrate your own progress.

4. Channel Jealousy into Motivation

Instead of letting jealousy consume you, use it as fuel. If you’re envious of someone’s success, ask yourself, What can I do to achieve something similar? Then, take action. Let jealousy push you to grow, not to tear others down.

5. Practice Self-Compassion

Be kind to yourself. Understand that feeling jealous doesn’t make you a bad person. It just makes you human. Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you’d offer a friend.

How to Deal with Jealous People

Now, let’s talk about the other side of the coin: how to handle people who are jealous of you.

1. Set Boundaries

If someone’s jealousy is affecting your mental health, it’s okay to distance yourself. You don’t owe anyone unlimited access to your life. Protect your peace.

2. Don’t Engage in Competition

Jealous people often try to compete with you, whether it’s over achievements, looks, or relationships. Don’t play into it. Stay focused on your own goals and don’t let their insecurities pull you down.

3. Show Empathy (When Possible)

Sometimes, jealousy stems from deep insecurity or pain. If you care about the person, try to understand where they’re coming from. Have an honest conversation. Sometimes, a little empathy can go a long way.

4. Know When to Walk Away

Not all relationships are meant to last. If someone’s jealousy is toxic and unchanging, it’s okay to let them go. Your mental health and happiness should always come first.

My Personal Decision

For me, I’ve made it a rule: I will never tolerate jealousy in my life. I can forgive someone who’s broken my heart. I can give second chances to people who’ve hurt me. But I won’t let jealousy fester in my relationships. It’s too damaging, too draining.

Instead, I choose to surround myself with people who are sincere—people who genuinely celebrate my wins, who lift me up instead of dragging me down. That’s what true connection looks like.

Final Thoughts

If you’re struggling with jealousy—whether you’re feeling it yourself or dealing with it from someone else—know that you’re not alone. And know that it’s possible to overcome it.

Jealousy doesn’t have to define you. It doesn’t have to ruin your relationships. With self-awareness, effort, and a willingness to grow, you can let it go.

And remember, life is too short to waste on toxic emotions. Focus on growth, gratitude, and genuine connections. The more you do that, the more fulfilling your life will become.

What do you think? Have you ever dealt with jealousy—either your own or someone else’s? I’d love to hear your thoughts. Let’s start a conversation about this.

A Request from My Heart

If you’re reading this, I have one simple request: please don’t let jealousy take over your life. Protect your aura. Spread positivity and happiness. If you can’t do something good for someone, that’s okay. Just don’t do anything negative.

And if you feel jealousy creeping in, remind yourself of this: life is too short to waste on negative emotions. Choose growth, gratitude, and love instead.

Trust me, the more you let go of jealousy, the lighter you’ll feel. You’ll see your relationships improve, your mindset shift, and your life transform.

And to those who’ve been on the receiving end of jealousy—stay strong. Protect your energy. Don’t let someone else’s negativity bring you down.

From the core of my heart, I hope this message reaches someone who needs it. Let’s create a world where we build each other up instead of tearing each other down.

What are your thoughts? Have you dealt with jealousy before? How did you handle it? Let me know—I’d love to hear your experiences.

Until next time,
Yours.