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 The Arrival of Spring: Vasant Panchami and Saraswati Puja Celebration

The air feels different, almost electric with anticipation. The days grow longer, the sun shines brighter, and the soft whispers of spring flutter through the breeze. This feeling of new beginnings, fresh starts, and endless possibilities is one of the most exciting sensations. After two or three years, I am finally preparing to wear a saree again for Vasant Panchami. This feeling, this excitement, is beyond what words can capture. After so long, I find myself standing at the threshold of something beautiful, something that speaks to my soul in ways I can hardly explain.

It’s a feeling of stepping into the past, bringing with it the joy and nostalgia of a time when I would eagerly embrace this day. This year, I will don the saree once again, and it is almost as if I am reconnecting with an old friend—something familiar, comforting, and full of memories. The excitement isn’t just about the saree itself, but about what this day represents. It marks not only a change in the season but also a transformation in the energy around me, the energy within me. It’s about honoring a connection with the goddess Saraswati, the embodiment of knowledge, wisdom, and creativity. A part of me is eagerly awaiting the chance to embrace this connection once more.

I have no idea how I’ll look in the saree after so many years of not wearing it, but that’s part of the excitement, isn’t it? There is a beautiful uncertainty in returning to something you once loved, a little nervousness, but also a deep sense of anticipation. After all, it’s not just the external transformation that excites me, but the internal shift that comes with it. Vasant Panchami is more than just about the attire—it is about the state of mind, the connection to the divine, and the celebration of knowledge.

As we approach this festival, we find ourselves not only embracing the change in weather but also the subtle shift in our own lives. The cold grip of winter has finally let go, making way for the newness of spring. The days feel warmer, and the world begins to bloom. The colors of nature begin to burst forth—greens, yellows, and blues—that lift our spirits and remind us that we are forever changing, evolving, and growing.

A Transitory Phase: The Feeling of Change

In the midst of all this, there’s a transition taking place within me. It’s like I can feel the energy shift from the stillness of winter into the vibrant pulse of spring. There is a feeling of renewal in the air, one that I’m embracing with open arms. It’s a sense of shedding the old, letting go of the heaviness of the colder months, and stepping into the brightness that spring brings with it. The transition from winter to spring is more than just a physical change—it’s a symbolic one, too. As the world outside transforms, I too am embracing a quieter, more introspective phase of renewal.

I’m switching off my fan in the evenings because the air feels warm, almost hot at times. My body craves the change, yet my parents are wary. “You’ll catch a cold,” they say with concern, warning me against it. But I can’t help it; I love the warmth. I feel like a part of me thrives in the heat, basking in it like the earth does when it embraces the first rays of sunlight after a long winter.

The Vasant Panchami season is also a reminder that the body and soul are ever-changing. The cycles of nature reflect the cycles within us, urging us to adapt, grow, and move forward. And as the weather transitions, I find myself reflecting on the changes I have gone through and the growth I’ve experienced in the past few years. There’s a sense of anticipation, excitement, and joy at what’s to come. I’m not just waiting for the season to change—I am waiting for the changes within me to unfold.

The transition from winter to spring always brings with it a sense of longing for renewal. It’s the season that brings the energy of rebirth, and that’s exactly how I feel. A part of me is shedding the old, letting go of the past, and preparing to embrace the beauty of what lies ahead.

The Significance of Vasant Panchami and Saraswati Puja

The true essence of Vasant Panchami isn’t just about the saree or the change in the weather. It’s about the deep spiritual significance of this day, which is dedicated to Goddess Saraswati. Saraswati, the goddess of wisdom, knowledge, music, and arts, embodies the highest form of intellectual and creative power. She represents everything that is sacred in our pursuit of knowledge—whether it is academic, artistic, or spiritual. This day is a celebration of learning, creativity, and self-expression, and it is an opportunity to reflect on our growth and the pursuit of wisdom.

In my life, Vasant Panchami has always been a time of reflection, a time to celebrate everything that learning and growth have brought me. It’s a day to seek Saraswati’s blessings for the pursuit of wisdom, creativity, and intellectual clarity. Her blessings are not just for students or artists but for everyone who seeks to expand their mind and express themselves more fully.

On this day, we honor Saraswati as a goddess who bestows us with the ability to learn, to think critically, and to create. Whether we are writing, painting, playing an instrument, or simply learning new things, we are embracing the divine energy that Saraswati embodies.

But what is truly powerful about Saraswati Puja is its ability to inspire people from all walks of life to reconnect with their creativity and passion. It’s a time when we reflect on our personal growth, acknowledge the lessons we’ve learned, and honor the creative potential within us all.

How to Perform Saraswati Puja at Home

You don’t need to be at a grand temple or have all the necessary rituals in place to celebrate Saraswati Puja—you can perform this puja at home, surrounded by family and loved ones, with nothing more than your devotion and sincerity. The steps are simple, yet they hold immense power when done with love and respect.

1. Cleanse the Space: Begin by cleaning the space where you’ll be performing the puja. Cleanliness is important in all Hindu rituals, as it creates a sacred and pure space for the goddess.
2. Prepare the Altar: Place a picture or idol of Goddess Saraswati in the center of your altar. Surround her image with books, musical instruments, and items that symbolize creativity—pens, notebooks, or art supplies. You may also place fruits and flowers, preferably yellow, around the idol. Yellow is considered an auspicious color for this puja.
3. Offerings: Offer yellow flowers, as they symbolize knowledge, purity, and divine energy. You can also offer fruits, sweets, and other prasad as an expression of gratitude.
4. Light the Lamp or Incense: Light a ghee lamp or incense sticks to purify the atmosphere and invite positive energy into the space. The light represents the knowledge that dispels darkness.
5. Chant Mantras: Chanting mantras is an essential part of the puja. The Saraswati Vandana mantra, recited with devotion, invokes the blessings of Goddess Saraswati. Here’s a powerful mantra: “Ya Kundendu Tushaara Haar Dhavala, Ya Shubhra Vastraavritaa, Ya Veenavaradanda Manditakara, Ya Shveta Padmasana.” Translation: “She who is as white as the snow-clad mountain and as radiant as the moon, who is dressed in white garments, who holds a Veena and the blessings of wisdom, seated on a white lotus.” Another powerful mantra is: “Saraswati Mahabhage Vidye Kamala Lochane, Vidhyarambham Karishyami Siddhir Bhavatu Me Sada.” Translation: “O Goddess Saraswati, the most auspicious and powerful one, the one with lotus eyes, I begin my studies today. May success always accompany me.”
6. Offer Prayers: During the puja, offer your heartfelt prayers to Goddess Saraswati. Ask for her blessings in your intellectual pursuits, your artistic endeavors, and your spiritual journey. Seek her guidance in your studies, your career, and in every path you choose to follow.
7. Celebrate with Family: Once the puja is complete, share the prasad with your loved ones. This is a time of unity and celebration—a time to reflect on how far we’ve come and what we still have to learn and accomplish.

The Spiritual Essence of Saraswati Puja

Vasant Panchami and Saraswati Puja are deeply spiritual, a reminder of our connection to something larger than ourselves. They are a time to seek divine blessings for wisdom, creativity, and knowledge. They remind us that the pursuit of knowledge is not just an intellectual journey—it is a spiritual one. The goddess Saraswati represents the higher truths of the universe, and by invoking her blessings, we align ourselves with those higher energies.

As we celebrate Saraswati Puja, we are reminded that learning is not just about acquiring facts and figures, but about connecting with the divine wisdom that resides within each of us. Creativity is not just about producing beautiful things, but about expressing our true selves in alignment with the universe.

Conclusion: Embracing the Journey of Growth

As Vasant Panchami approaches, I feel an immense sense of gratitude and excitement. It’s not just about the saree, the rituals, or the offerings—it’s about the deeper connection to the goddess Saraswati and the blessings she bestows upon us. It’s about embracing the journey of learning, growing, and creating, and about finding inspiration in every corner of life.

So as spring arrives, let us all celebrate this beautiful festival with joy and devotion. Let us open our hearts to the blessings of knowledge, creativity, and wisdom that the goddess Saraswati brings. Whether you’re performing the puja at home or simply reflecting on your own journey, may this Vasant Panchami inspire you to keep learning, keep growing, and keep expressing your true self. May the goddess’s wisdom illuminate your path and guide you toward greatness.

The Passion I Feel For A Deeply Expressive Connection

 The Power of Expression in Love: The Type of Partner I’m Craving

Love is often described as one of the most profound and powerful emotions that human beings can experience. It transcends words, actions, and time, and yet, when expressed in certain ways, it takes on a whole new level of significance. The way we express our love, the efforts we put into showing it, and the vulnerability we open ourselves up to when we allow our feelings to be seen by someone else is a testament to how deeply we care.

When I think about the kind of partner I crave, the one that makes my heart feel whole, my mind clear, and my soul content, I realize that I yearn for someone who is not afraid to express their love in the most profound ways. Expression is everything to me. It is not just about the words we speak, but the actions we take, the songs we sing, the poetry we create, and the ways in which we communicate our emotions—no matter how shy or awkward it may feel. To me, these expressions represent the purest form of love: the kind that is unfiltered, honest, and real.

The Desire for Expression

Why do I feel so drawn to this kind of love? Why is it that I crave a partner who will sing songs for me, write me beautiful paragraphs, or craft poetry with their heart? The answer lies in the fact that I believe love should be expressed. There’s something magical about someone who doesn’t hold back their emotions, someone who pours their heart out in a way that makes you feel like you are the most important person in the world to them. It’s in the small gestures, the personal songs, the handwritten notes—these are the things that make love feel tangible.

It’s easy to take someone for granted when they don’t express their love. When you’re in a relationship with someone who is shy or reserved, it can often leave you wondering: Do they love me as much as I love them? The absence of that external confirmation—whether it’s through actions, words, or physical touch—can sometimes make you question your place in their heart. While you may feel their love internally, it’s the expression that completes it. It’s the way they choose to show you that their feelings are just as intense, real, and passionate as yours. The act of expressing love can turn a simple moment into something extraordinary.

I have always been someone who craves those expressions. A partner who is not afraid to say “I love you” in a thousand different ways—whether it’s through music, writing, or just the look in their eyes—fills my heart with joy. I believe that when you love someone, it’s not just about the fact that you love them, but about how you let them know. The effort and vulnerability that come with those expressions are what truly speak to my heart.

The Shyness Factor: A Balancing Act

However, as much as I dream of a partner who is expressive, I also know that life isn’t always perfect. We often find ourselves with partners who are not as naturally expressive—partners who are shy, reserved, or simply don’t feel comfortable opening up in such overt ways. And while I may long for those sweet serenades and beautifully crafted poems, I understand that not everyone is capable of or comfortable with expressing their love in the same ways.

The challenge here is understanding that love is not one-size-fits-all. Just because my partner doesn’t show their love in the way I crave doesn’t mean they love me any less. It means they are offering their love in the best way they know how. Perhaps it’s through acts of service, spending time with me, or supporting me when I need it most. But as much as I appreciate these acts, I still long for those expressive moments.

It can be frustrating at times. There’s a part of me that yearns for more—more words, more songs, more poetry, more creativity in the way they show their love. Yet, I also know that love doesn’t need to be perfect. The effort itself is what matters to me the most. Even if they aren’t the best singer or the most gifted writer, the fact that they are willing to try, to step out of their comfort zone, to create something for me from the heart—this is what I hold dear.

I’ve often wondered why people don’t express their love more freely. Some may feel shy or insecure, others might not know how to put their feelings into words. But deep down, I believe that if someone truly loves you, they will eventually find a way to express it. Whether it’s through simple, sweet gestures or grand romantic declarations, I believe that everyone has a way of showing their affection. It’s just a matter of being patient and understanding the way that love manifests for each person.

The Effort Matters More Than Perfection

One of the most important things I’ve learned in my quest for expressive love is that the effort matters more than perfection. When a partner tries to write a song for you, even if they’re not a songwriter, it’s the sincerity behind it that makes it so special. When they compose a poem, even if it’s not flawless, it’s the emotion and the thoughtfulness behind it that moves me. And when they sing to you, even if they’re shy and unsure of their voice, it’s the vulnerability that makes their words more meaningful.

Love isn’t about being perfect. It’s about trying. It’s about showing up for each other. It’s about making the effort to make your partner feel cherished and important. And this is what I crave—a partner who, despite their shyness or their fear of being vulnerable, will put in the effort to express their love in a way that resonates with me. I want them to know that their effort is enough, that even the smallest act of love is enough to make me feel adored.

The Dream of a Partner Who Expresses Love Through Song and Poetry

In my dreams, I envision a partner who will sing songs just for me—songs that they’ve written themselves, songs that speak to the heart of our relationship. I picture them sitting down at a piano or strumming a guitar, composing melodies that tell the story of us. I imagine the lyrics being written just for me—expressing the love, the longing, the joy, and the pain that we’ve shared together. I dream of being wrapped in the sound of their voice, hearing the lyrics that capture everything I’ve ever wanted to hear and feel.

I also dream of receiving poetry from them—words carefully crafted to tell me how much they love me, how much I mean to them. These aren’t just words on a page; they are pieces of their heart, shared with me. Whether it’s a simple poem or an intricate one, the effort they put into expressing their emotions would make me feel like the most important person in the world.

Even if they’re not the best writer or singer, their words and melodies would be the most beautiful thing I’ve ever heard. Because it’s not about the skill—it’s about the intention. It’s about the fact that they took the time to create something just for me, that they stepped outside of their comfort zone to express the love they have for me.

The Balance of Love: Patience, Effort, and Expression

At the end of the day, love is a delicate balance of patience, effort, and expression. I may crave a partner who is vocal about their love for me, who will sing songs and write poetry, but I also recognize that not everyone expresses love in the same way. The key is understanding and patience. I want a partner who, despite their shyness, will still make the effort to show me their love in ways that matter to me. I don’t need perfection; I need effort. I need someone who is willing to try, someone who is willing to put their heart into their words, their actions, and their creations.

A partner who is expressive, who sings for me, writes for me, and creates for me—this is the love I long for. But most of all, it’s the effort behind it that makes it so beautiful. And I will cherish every single expression of love, no matter how big or small, because it’s the thought, the care, and the vulnerability that makes it truly special.

Without You ~ An Ode to Love, Longing, and Transformation

 

“Bin Tere” by Aditya Ikhari: An Ode to Love, Longing, and Transformation

Music is not just sound—it’s an experience, a feeling, a language of its own that speaks directly to the heart. There are some songs that come into your life and shift the very foundation of your being. “Bin Tere” by Aditya Ikhari is one such song. It’s not merely a collection of notes; it’s a journey. It’s a soulful cry, an offering, a prayer, and a reflection all at once. The beauty of this song is that it doesn’t just tell a story; it connects with your inner emotions and pulls at your heartstrings in a way that words alone cannot explain.

From the moment the first note of the song plays, something within you stirs. It’s not the beat that you feel at first, nor the melody. It’s something much deeper—an aching recognition, a silent whisper that resonates within you. Something about the lyrics makes your soul pause, reflect, and surrender to the emotions. The voice of the singer, smooth yet laden with raw emotion, carries the listener into a space of longing, love, and unspoken desire. This song has a way of making you feel as though it was written just for you—about your own feelings, your own struggles, your own heartache.

“Bin tere nahiyon guzaara mera, bas ik tuhiyon sahara mera.”
“Without you, I cannot live. You are my only support.”

These first lines echo the very essence of deep, uncontainable love. They aren’t just words; they’re the quiet confession of someone whose heart is utterly tied to another. The need expressed here is not that of dependence, but of a deep, consuming longing for connection. When the singer says, “Bin tere nahiyon guzaara mera,” it’s as though they are speaking a universal truth that everyone who has loved deeply has experienced. Love is not simply a choice or an emotion; it’s a force that binds us. It becomes essential to our survival, our sense of peace, and our emotional well-being.

There’s an immense vulnerability in admitting that we cannot live without someone. But what’s even more profound is the underlying understanding that in this relationship, the person who is being spoken to isn’t just someone we care for—they are the very reason we continue to thrive. They are the source of our strength, the force that keeps our heart beating and our mind at ease.

This lyric speaks to the truth that when you love someone with every fiber of your being, they aren’t just a part of your life—they are your life. Your joy, your meaning, your purpose—all of it is intertwined with them. Without their presence, everything feels meaningless, lost, and empty. The depth of this love is impossible to ignore—it consumes you, it shapes you, and it brings you a sense of belonging you never knew you needed.

“Kagaz ki kashti mein behta raha, tujhpe aake kinaara mila.”
“I sailed on a paper boat, and only when I reached you did I find the shore.”

Here, the song takes on an almost poetic, mystical quality. The imagery of a paper boat—fragile, delicate, and easily destroyed—becomes a metaphor for the emotional vulnerability that comes with loving someone. We all float through life like that paper boat, fragile and susceptible to the tides of time, searching for something solid to hold onto, something that will give us meaning and purpose.

The boat, while delicate, continues its journey through the tumultuous sea. And despite the fragility of its form, it doesn’t give up—it keeps moving. The same is true for love. It carries you through the storms, through the overwhelming tides of uncertainty, doubt, and fear. Yet, when it finally finds the shore, everything changes. The journey, no matter how difficult, finally reaches its end, and peace is found.

This is love in its most profound state: it’s the voyage, the struggle, the search for something that feels like home. It’s about seeking and yearning, yet knowing that the ultimate destination is worth every hardship along the way. It’s about finally finding the one person who brings peace to your soul, someone who transforms the struggle into a moment of serenity.

“Bezaan dil mein kuch harkat huyi, tum jo mile thodi barkat huyi.”
“In my lifeless heart, something moved when I met you, and my life was blessed.”

Before love enters our life, there is often a sense of emptiness, a quiet desolation that we try to fill with distractions, achievements, or things that momentarily soothe us. But when we meet the right person, everything changes. It’s not that we were incomplete before—we were whole in our own way. But love has a unique way of adding depth and richness to our lives that we didn’t even know we were missing.

When the lyrics speak of the heart moving, it’s about that quiet transformation that happens when you fall in love. It’s the spark of something new, the shift from darkness to light. The moment love touches your heart, everything feels different. Life becomes more meaningful, more colorful. What once seemed dull and unimportant now feels full of potential. You begin to see beauty in things you never noticed before, and your heart opens up to the world in a way that only love can achieve. The person you’ve met has given you a gift—blessing you not just with their presence, but with the light of love that will forever illuminate your path.

“Mohabbat hui hai humein, teri aadat hui hai humein.”
“I have fallen in love with you, and I have grown so accustomed to you.”

Love isn’t just about passion or excitement—it’s about the gradual intertwining of two lives, the comfort of routine, and the joy of finding someone who fits seamlessly into your world. These lines speak of the quiet, everyday moments that define a relationship. Love isn’t just about the fireworks; it’s also about the subtle, tender acts of affection that grow over time. The more you get used to someone, the more you realize how essential they are. They become part of your rhythm, your routine, your thoughts. It’s a beautiful kind of attachment—a bond that goes beyond the superficial and sinks deeply into the heart.

When the singer says, “teri aadat hui hai humein,” they’re not just referring to the physical presence of the other person—they’re speaking to the emotional connection, the invisible thread that ties them together. This thread is what keeps you going, what keeps you thinking of them even when you’re apart. The habits you form with them, the little quirks you love about them, the way you both fit together—these are the quiet markers of a deep, lasting love. It’s the kind of love that settles into your bones, that becomes second nature, something you can’t imagine your life without.

“Tum agar neend ho toh main ek khwab hoon, tum agar ishq ho main gulaab hoon.”
“If you are sleep, I am a dream; if you are love, I am a rose.”

This line is perhaps one of the most beautiful in the entire song. It speaks to the idea of becoming one with the person you love—of merging with them so completely that you can no longer separate who they are from who you are. The comparison to sleep and dreams is so powerful, because when we dream, we enter a different world—a world where everything is possible, where we are free to be whoever we wish to be. In the same way, love opens up a realm where anything is possible.

The rose imagery, too, speaks to the purity and beauty of this love. A rose is delicate, fragrant, and a symbol of romantic love throughout history. To say that “if you are love, I am a rose” is to say that you have become the embodiment of that love—gentle, beautiful, and forever blooming.

“Tum agar chain ho to mai meethi saans hoon, tum agar jo nahi to main khakh hoon.”
“If you are peace, I am the sweet breath; if you are not, I am nothing.”

These lyrics hit hard because they speak to the ultimate level of emotional and spiritual dependence in love. They aren’t just about being together physically—they reflect the essence of needing someone on a soul-deep level. If they are peace, you are the breath that sustains them. But if they are absent, you are left with nothing. It’s a stark, yet beautiful realization of how deeply love can define us.

When you are with someone you love, your soul finds its rest, its peace. And when they are not with you, everything falls apart. It’s this delicate balance that love creates—a balance between emotional strength and vulnerability. Love, in its purest form, gives us the strength to be our true selves, but also the courage to face the possibility of losing what we hold dear.

“Bin Tere, nahiyon guzaara mera.”
“Without you, I cannot live.”

The final line is the ultimate declaration of love. It sums up everything that has been said before. It is the resolution, the truth, the final piece of the puzzle. This line speaks to the heart’s most profound truth: love is not just something we feel—it is something that sustains us. Without love, we are adrift. Without love, we are incomplete. But with love, everything is possible. It is the driving force behind everything we do, and without it, life loses its meaning.

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The Power of “Bin Tere”: A Song That Defines Love

In the end, “Bin Tere” isn’t just a song. It’s a journey. It’s the path that leads us through the pain, the longing, the joy, and the fulfillment that comes with love. It’s a reflection of everything we hope for, everything we fear, and everything we are willing to give for the person we love.

Every lyric, every note, every pause—it all speaks to a deeper part of us. It’s a reminder that love, in all its forms, is not just a feeling; it’s the very thing that gives us life. It is our anchor, our reason for being. This song is for anyone who has ever loved deeply, who has ever felt the sting of longing, or who has ever experienced the quiet peace that comes from truly being seen and loved by another person.

Listening to “Bin Tere” is not just about hearing music—it’s about feeling every word in your soul. It’s about embracing the truth that love, no matter how fragile or fleeting, is the force that binds us all.

Does Sacrificing Yourself Benefit You?

 

Choosing Yourself: The Most Important Decision You Will Ever Make

There comes a time in life when you realize that the person you’ve been waiting for—the one to save you, to choose you, to fight for you—is you. No one else. Not the world, not society, not even the people who love you. It’s a realization that can be both liberating and terrifying because it means that you are responsible for yourself, for your happiness, for your dreams, and most importantly, for the life you create.

But in a world that constantly demands your attention, your sacrifice, your compliance, and your willingness to put others before yourself, choosing you feels like rebellion. We are taught, directly and indirectly, that putting ourselves first is selfish. That we must be the ones to compromise, to adjust, to bend until we break. And so we give—our time, our energy, our love—until there’s nothing left for ourselves.

But let me ask you something: When was the last time you chose yourself?

When was the last time you made a decision that was purely, unapologetically for you, without guilt, without justification? If you can’t remember, then it’s time to change that.

Why Choosing Yourself Is Not Selfish

Choosing yourself is not about disregarding others or living without compassion. It’s about recognizing that you cannot pour from an empty cup. If you are drained, exhausted, unfulfilled, or constantly putting yourself last, how can you give anything of real value to the people around you?

The world tells us to be kind, to be giving, to be there for others. But what the world often forgets to tell us is that the first person we need to be kind to, to give to, to show up for—is ourselves.

Think about it:

• If you don’t respect yourself, how can you expect others to respect you?
• If you don’t prioritize your own happiness, how can you expect life to bring you joy?
• If you don’t chase your dreams, who will do it for you?

You owe it to yourself to be your own advocate, to stand up for your needs, and to carve out a life that aligns with your soul. Because no one else can do that for you.

The Consequences of Not Choosing Yourself

When you don’t choose yourself, you begin to lose yourself.

• You say yes to things you don’t want to do.
• You tolerate relationships that drain you.
• You silence your voice to avoid confrontation.
• You let your dreams sit on a shelf, gathering dust.
• You wake up one day feeling like a stranger in your own life.

And the worst part? You start believing that this is normal.

You convince yourself that this is just the way things are, that sacrificing yourself for the sake of others is what life is supposed to be. But deep down, there’s a voice whispering: This is not what I want. This is not who I am.

Ignoring that voice is what leads to resentment, exhaustion, and a life that feels like it belongs to someone else. Listening to it, however—that is the first step toward reclaiming yourself.

How to Start Choosing Yourself

1. Set Boundaries Without Guilt

People who truly love and respect you will honor your boundaries. The ones who get upset when you say no are usually the ones who benefited from your lack of them. Learn to protect your time, energy, and mental health.

2. Stop Seeking External Validation

Your worth is not determined by how much you please others. The more you rely on external approval, the more you give others power over your happiness. Choose yourself by validating your own thoughts, feelings, and decisions.

3. Prioritize Your Dreams and Goals

You were not born to be a background character in someone else’s story. Your dreams matter. Your passions matter. Make time for the things that set your soul on fire. Stop putting them on hold for “someday”—because someday is not promised.

4. Remove Toxic People From Your Life

Not everyone deserves access to you. Some people only take, leaving you emotionally drained. If someone constantly disrespects you, belittles you, or takes advantage of you, choosing yourself means walking away.

5. Listen to Your Inner Voice

That gut feeling, that intuition—it’s there for a reason. Your soul knows what you need. The more you ignore it, the more lost you become. Trust yourself.

6. Make Your Happiness a Priority

Happiness is not selfish. It is necessary. You are not responsible for making everyone else happy at the cost of your own well-being. Choosing yourself means making decisions that bring you joy, even if others don’t always understand them.

7. Invest in Yourself

Your personal growth should be a top priority. Read, learn, explore, travel, work on your mental and physical health. The more you invest in yourself, the more you grow into the person you are meant to be.

The Reality of Choosing Yourself

Choosing yourself is not always easy. It might mean letting go of relationships that no longer serve you. It might mean facing judgment from people who don’t understand your journey. It might mean stepping into the unknown, unsure of what lies ahead.

But what is the alternative? To live a life where you constantly put yourself last? To wake up every day feeling unfulfilled, unheard, unseen?

You deserve better than that.

Choosing yourself is an act of self-respect. It is a declaration that you are worthy of love, success, and happiness—not because of what you do for others, but simply because you exist.

And the moment you start choosing yourself, the world around you shifts. You start attracting better opportunities, healthier relationships, and a deeper sense of fulfillment. You stop waiting for someone else to give you permission to be happy, and you realize—you were the permission all along.

Final Thoughts

If you take away one thing from this, let it be this: You are allowed to put yourself first.

You are allowed to say no.
You are allowed to walk away from things that drain you.
You are allowed to prioritize your happiness.
You are allowed to live for yourself.

The world will try to make you feel guilty for choosing yourself. Don’t let it. The people who truly matter will understand, and the ones who don’t—well, they were never meant to stay in your life anyway.

So today, and every day after this, make the choice.

Choose yourself.

Because when you do, everything else will fall into place.