Thursday, April 3, 2025

What Is a Soulmate? The Truth No One Tells You

 

Do You Really Know What a Soulmate Is?

When people hear the word ā€œsoulmate,ā€ they often paint a picture in their mindsā€”someone who walks into your life like magic, changes everything for the better, fills every void, and makes you feel loved unconditionally.


They think a soulmate is:


  • Someone who understands them without words.
  • Someone who never hurts them.
  • Someone who completes them.
  • Someone who stays forever, no matter what.

But this is where most people get it wrong.


Because a soulmate is not just a soft touch on your wounds. A soulmate is a storm. A soulmate is a fire. A soulmate is both the knife that cuts you open and the hands that stitch you back together. They donā€™t exist to make you comfortable. They exist to make you more.


Soulmates Donā€™t Just Love Youā€”They Transform You

People say, ā€œShe left because she found someone better.ā€
People say, ā€œHe fell out of love.ā€
People say, ā€œShe changed.ā€


But do they ever ask why?


Did she leave because she never loved you? Or did she leave because she saw the fire in you, but you refused to let it burn?


A soulmate does not settle for half of you. They will look at you and say:
ā€œI know there is more inside you. I can see it. I can feel it. Why arenā€™t you unleashing it?ā€


They will push you, they will challenge you, they will shake your soul until you rise into the greatness they see in you.


And if you donā€™t riseā€”if you stay stagnant, if you ignore their guidance, if you choose to live below your potentialā€”they will leave. Not because they stopped loving you, but because they love you too much to watch you shrink.


Love Is Not Just About Being Togetherā€”Itā€™s About Growing Together

Love is not just ā€œI love you.ā€ Love is listening. Love is action. Love is choosing to grow together, every single day.


Have you ever seen a couple that has been together for 30, 40, 50 years? Do you think they just stayed together because it was easy? Because there was never any conflict? No. They stayed together because they kept choosing each other. They kept choosing to evolve together, to listen, to adapt, to put in the work.


Because thatā€™s what a soulmate does. They donā€™t just say, ā€œI love you.ā€ They say,
ā€œI love you, and I will grow with you, even when itā€™s hard.ā€


A Soulmate Will See You More Clearly Than You See Yourself

There are parts of you that you donā€™t even recognizeā€”your hidden fears, your suppressed dreams, your untapped potential. But a soulmate?


They will see it. They will pull it out of you, whether you like it or not.


  • If you are playing small, they will push you to be big.
  • If you are settling, they will remind you that you deserve more.
  • If you are losing yourself, they will shake you awake.

A soulmate is not always gentle. They will hurt you, not because they want to, but because sometimes truth hurts. They will tell you things no one else dares to say, and you will hate them for it.


ā€œWhy canā€™t you just accept me the way I am?ā€
Because they know you are meant to be more.


ā€œWhy do you keep pushing me?ā€
Because they refuse to let you live a life smaller than the one you deserve.


And if you canā€™t see what they seeā€”if you refuse to riseā€”then they will let you go.


Because a soulmate doesnā€™t love you for who you are today. They love you for who you have the potential to become.


The Reason People Lose Their Soulmates

Do you know why people lose their soulmates?


Itā€™s not because ā€œsomeone betterā€ came along.
Itā€™s not because ā€œlove faded.ā€
Itā€™s not because ā€œthings got hard.ā€


Itā€™s because one of them stopped growing.


One of them stopped listening.
One of them stopped fighting for the vision they once had together.
One of them became too comfortable, too stagnant, too afraid to evolve.


And a soulmate cannot stay where there is no movement. They are water, fire, air, storm, destruction, creation. They cannot live in stillness.


So they leave. And they find someone who is ready.


Soulmates Are Not Just Loversā€”They Are Mirrors

A soulmate will show you:


  • Your powerā€”the kind you donā€™t even know you have.
  • Your fearsā€”the ones you refuse to face.
  • Your truthā€”the one you keep running from.

They will stand before you like a mirror, reflecting every part of you. The beautiful. The broken. The brilliant. The buried.


And you will have two choices:
Face it. Or break the mirror.


If you face itā€”if you choose to grow, to evolve, to listen, to fight for the love that is bigger than just ā€œromanceā€ā€”then you will understand what a true soulmate is.


But if you break the mirrorā€”if you refuse to see what they are showing youā€”then you will lose them. Not because they wanted to leave. But because a soulmate cannot stay where the soul refuses to awaken.


If You Have a Soulmate, Hold Them Tight

If you are lucky enough to have found a soulmateā€”someone who pushes you, who challenges you, who calls you out, who refuses to let you settleā€”hold them tight.


  • Listen to them. They see things in you that you cannot see in yourself.
  • Grow with them. Do not expect them to stay if you refuse to evolve.
  • Love them boldly. Speak their love language. Say ā€œI love youā€ like itā€™s the only thing that matters.
  • Never stop choosing them. Every single day, wake up and ask, ā€œWhat can I do to make this love stronger?ā€

Because soulmates? They are rare. They are not just found in every corner.


If you find one, cherish them. Because the greatest tragedy is not losing loveā€”itā€™s losing the one love that was meant to make you more.



A Soulmate Sees You Before You See Yourself

A soulmate is not just someone who loves you. They see youā€”the real you, the parts you hide, the potential you donā€™t even believe in yet. They look at you and say, ā€œHey, you have something incredible inside you. Follow this path.ā€


They arenā€™t just lovers; they are guides, mirrors, catalysts. They tell you things others wonā€™t because they donā€™t love you for your comfort zone. They love you for your becoming.


But hereā€™s the thingā€”soulmates donā€™t just talk. They listen.


They donā€™t just tell you what to do; they listen when you tell them what you feel, what you fear, what you dream about in the dead of night when the world is asleep.


Listening Is Love. Listening Is Language.

Love isnā€™t just about being heardā€”itā€™s about being understood.


Imagine you have a group of friends, and among them, thereā€™s someone your soulmate doesnā€™t like. She wonā€™t tell you, ā€œStay away because I said so.ā€ Sheā€™ll tell you, ā€œI donā€™t like that person. Something about them doesnā€™t sit right with me.ā€


She isnā€™t being controlling. She isnā€™t trying to dictate your life.


Itā€™s her intuition, her soul sensing something that your heart might be ignoring.


And a mature person doesnā€™t dismiss that. They pause. They think, ā€œIf this person, who wants the best for me, feels this way, maybe thereā€™s something I havenā€™t noticed.ā€


Thatā€™s what a soulmate does. They arenā€™t there to control you; they are there to protect you. And you do the same for them.


Because love isnā€™t about individual pathsā€”itā€™s about walking together.


The Little Things Are The Big Things

Love isnā€™t found in grand gestures. Itā€™s in the smallest, quietest moments that most people overlook.


Take Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco, for example. Their relationship is built on something thatā€™s becoming rareā€”thoughtfulness.


Benny said in a podcast, ā€œMy first thought in the morning is what I can do to make Selenaā€™s day better.ā€


Not how she can make him happy. Not what he can get from her.


But how he can give.


And Selena? She thinks the same way.


Do you see the magic in that?


Two people waking up, not thinking, ā€œWhat can I take?ā€ but ā€œWhat can I give?ā€


That is love in its purest form. That is soulmate energy.


Because love isnā€™t just about being in a relationship. Itā€™s about being in sync. Itā€™s about two souls building, protecting, givingā€”without keeping score.


Saying ā€œI Love Youā€ Should Never Get Old

Some people think saying ā€œI love youā€ too much is cringey. They say, ā€œWhy do you have to say it all the time? You already know I love you.ā€


But love isnā€™t something you assume. Love is something you express.


Saying ā€œI love youā€ should feel as natural as breathing. It should be a daily ritual, not just a phrase but a languageā€”spoken in words, in gestures, in every little moment.


Say ā€œI love youā€ when they wake up.
Say ā€œI love youā€ when they are stressed.
Say ā€œI love youā€ even when they know itā€”especially when they know it.


Because one day, when you look back, youā€™ll realize it was never too much. It was always just enough.


The True Meaning of a Soulmate

A soulmate is not someone who just exists in your life.
A soulmate is someone who walks through life with you.


They see your soul. They push you to grow. They listen to you, protect you, challenge you, and love youā€”not just in the big moments, but in the everyday seconds that make life what it is.


And the people who have thisā€”the ones who give without taking, who listen without controlling, who love without limitsā€”are the ones who never regret.


Because at the end of the day, love isnā€™t about being perfect.
Itā€™s about choosing each other, again and again and again.

Wednesday, April 2, 2025

Why Do Mosquitoes Love Me? A Rant on Blood Loss & Sleepless Nights (Life Lately)

 

Mosquitoes, Periods, and the War Against My Sanity

Life lately? Annoying. Agonizing. Pure chaos. And I blame three things: mosquitoes, periods, and the unbearable heat.


Itā€™s that time of the month when my body decides to drain itself, and as if losing blood naturally wasnā€™t enough, these little flying vampires have taken it upon themselves to suck the remaining drops out of me.


A Personal Blood Donation Drive (Against My Will)

I mean, seriously. Why me? What is so special about my blood that mosquitoes are choosing me over the thousands of other humans in this world? Iā€™ve tried everythingā€”Neem oil, cloves with lemon, camphor, incense, mosquito-repellent sprays, those plug-in vaporizers, and even manually swatting them like a crazy person. Nothing works.


And letā€™s talk about that infuriating sound. That high-pitched, sleep-ruining, sanity-shattering ā€œwhhhhzzzhzhzhzhhhhhā€ right near my ears. Why do they have to announce their arrival? Just bite and leave! But no, they need to make sure I hear them, wake up, slap the air like a lunatic, and then get bitten anyway.


The Betrayal of the Mosquito Net

Youā€™d think a mosquito net would save me, right? Wrong. These creatures have a PhD in infiltration. No matter how securely I tuck myself in, one or two elite warriors always find their way inside. And then the real horror begins. Ever tried trapping a mosquito inside a net with you? Itā€™s a full-blown hostage situation, except Iā€™m the one being tortured.


I canā€™t even write at night anymore. Nighttime is when my mind takes deep dives into thoughts, creativity flows, and words come alive. But no. Now, every time I try to focus, some annoying mosquito squad decides itā€™s dinner time. They bite me, make me itch, and in return, they sing me their horrible lullabies. I didnā€™t sign up for this kind of soundtrack!


Mosquito Negotiations: A Lost Cause

If only I could talk to mosquitoes, my life would be so much easier:


Me: ā€œMr. Mosquito, please spare me tonight. Iā€™m already losing blood naturally, you donā€™t need to contribute to the process.ā€ Mosquito: ā€œSorry, lady, I have a family to feed.ā€


Like, seriously?! I wish it worked that way. But no. They donā€™t negotiate, they donā€™t care. They take, they itch, and they leave. Rude.


Oh, And Letā€™s Not Forget the Heat!

To add insult to injury, letā€™s talk about the heatwave. 37Ā°C at noon, 26-27Ā°C at night. Itā€™s like nature itself has decided to turn life into a challenge. The sun blazes all day, cooking everything alive, and at night, itā€™s just humid enough to make sure I stay hot, sweaty, and mosquito-friendly.


And I know what youā€™re thinking: ā€œJust use a fan or AC.ā€ Oh, I do. But guess what? Mosquitoes are now fan-resistant. These little demons fly against the wind like theyā€™re in some action movie. Nothing stops them.


Periods, Pain, and Cravings (On Top of It All)

As if blood loss and mosquito terrorism werenā€™t enough, letā€™s not forget my dear old friend, period cramps. They come knocking on my uterus like an earthquake, making sure I stay in bed, curled up, questioning my existence. And the cravings? Through the roof.


One moment, Iā€™m dying for chocolate. The next, I need spicy chips. Then suddenly, I want to eat a full meal even though Iā€™m not hungry. But do I even have the energy to get up and satisfy them? No, because the mosquitoes have drained my last bit of willpower.


Oh, and letā€™s not forget the mood swings. One minute, Iā€™m ready to cry over a sad Instagram reel; the next, Iā€™m cursing the mosquitoes for simply existing. Itā€™s a rollercoaster I never signed up for.


A New Plan: Writing at Noon

Since nights are now mosquito-infested nightmares, Iā€™ve officially shifted my writing schedule to noon. Yes, in the scorching heat. Because at least then, mosquitoes are slightly less annoying.


Picture this: Itā€™s 37Ā°C, Iā€™m sweating, my laptop keyboard is hot to the touch, and Iā€™m typing aggressively about how much I hate mosquitoes. Peak productivity.


So see you all at noonā€”when Iā€™ll be roasting under the sun, annoyed, but at least not getting bitten alive.


This Too Shall Passā€¦ Right?

I keep telling myself, this will pass. The heat will go, the mosquitoes will disappear (hopefully into hell where they belong), and my periods will end for the month. Happy days will come again, or maybe Iā€™ll just drag them into existence.


But for now? Let me just scream into the void and continue my unwanted blood donation drive.



Like, Iā€™m not saying Iā€™m the only one whoā€™s feeling overwhelmed or the only one getting mosquito bites, but still, guysā€¦ WHY?! Why does it feel like they have a personal vendetta against me?


Tell me, have mosquitoes made your life miserable too? Or is it just me whoā€™s their personal buffet? Drop your war stories in the comments because I know Iā€™m not alone in this battle!

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